Fear is a feeling of anguish that is usually caused by the presence of a danger, whether real or imagined. It is a feeling of mistrust that leads to the belief that an event will occur contrary to what is desired, this leads to a general malaise.
Couples who have been seeking pregnancy for several years without achieving it are afraid that the medical response in the diagnosis will mean a permanent impossibility towards pregnancy.
It is true that in very small cases there is no medical possibility of pregnancy, there are male and female factors that limit the possibility of pregnancy, but it is also true that many couples have not achieved pregnancy due to misdiagnosis or inappropriate protocols according to their clinical profile.
It is frequent that when they start a treatment for the first time, they are afraid of not achieving the desired pregnancy and with it, the fear of failure. Assisted reproduction treatments in Mexico entail a high emotional and economic investment; this may mean starting an imaginary mourning of an uncertain future, it is a defense mechanism to compensate for the imminent impact of what really does not exist (the future has not arrived). Fear is at the couple and social level.
The mind by its very nature is scattered and imaginative, this means that it can easily create both peaceful and adverse situations. Some women are concerned that the treatment will be painful, whether it be gynecological check-ups, procedures or the application of medication or interventions within the operating theatre.
From the man’s position arises fear of the possibility of pain in his partner and feel a powerlessness for not knowing what to do or even feel guilty about the desire to have a child and support his partner to get treatment.
By not knowing exactly how assisted reproduction treatments work, hidden fears are generated due to ignorance of the same and part of this is to think about the possibility of a multiple pregnancy and with it complications where even the life of the woman may be in danger.
However, there are those who in addition to believing that it is unnatural or that it is an altered biology (from their belief system) are afraid that their children will have some abnormal situation in their behavior or abnormal from their biology.
All these hidden sensations generate mental constructs where it could arise in their imagination that by having a child through an assisted reproduction treatment the couple will no longer be able to see them in the same way as if they had had a pregnancy naturally.
It is also associated in the sense that the sexual life of the couple is diminished both by medical-clinical procedures and by the fear of losing something so important where a strong economic investment has been made.
Several studies have been conducted on this subject to show that the drugs used in assisted reproduction treatments do not produce devastating effects such as cancer. Most patients believe that when they are medicated with substances that increase hormone production, they can cause some kind of illness or adverse reactions.
From being a couple without children to being a couple with children, they have to rethink the necessary changes in their daily activities to adjust them to the new life experience and everything that the stage of pregnancy implies.
When faced with the possibility of pregnancy through assisted reproduction treatment, there is a fear that those close to them within their social environment will find out that the pregnancy has been conceived through medical treatment, which may mean not fulfilling the socially established expectations.
All these fears need to be treated in the company of a specialist so in CITMER we have created the “Program of Emotional Preparation for Pregnancy”. We are waiting for you in our Workshops of Emotional Accompaniment and make this story a wonderful experience.